Have you ever noticed all the things we think about? Ever sat down and observed your thoughts? We let our minds run wild with thoughts every day but with no filter. Today, try and observe your thoughts, how many of those thoughts are about you? About your wellbeing? About your happiness? Let that sink in. Take a moment. Yes, few right? Let’s learn to focus on ‘YOU’ today.
Understand yourself – Who are you?
A question that is very difficult to answer but let’s put an effort. You can be all the experiences you have gone through, all the books you’ve read, discussions you’ve had with people, songs you listen to, the ideology you follow. You are your personal victories, your smile, your tears.
“You are you. The best person to know you is – you.”
Why do you matter?
There is only one of you and only you can provide the change you want to see. It’s not just about yourself but the people who already love you and are yet to meet, the lives of people you will touch. You can spread so much love, goodness, and happiness for a whole lot of bunch; no one else can think the way you do.
You need you. You wake up with yourself, you go to work with you, you eat food for yourself, you are a world in yourself. Your body and your mind need care. And it’s for this very reason that it’s important to focus on yourself and self-improvement
How to focus on yourself?
Is it selfish to focus on yourself? No, it is absolutely not. Whatever you do in this little world inside you reflect in the world outside. Many people fail to understand this. You perceive things differently when you are happy internally. And remember, you have the ability to react through your actions over anything that has happened to you.
Here are the top 5 tips that will help you reframe your thoughts and actions to focus on yourself always:
If you want to improve anything about you it should begin by focusing on you. Have you ever noticed how you talk to yourself? What tone does your internal voice have? It is very important to talk to yourself kindly, self-love begins here. Ohh also, It is very normal to talk to yourself out loud, it’s a good sign if you are having good conversations with yourself. Next time someone judges you for talking to yourself tell them you are taking some expert advice. 🙂
Tips to love yourself
1. Treat yourself the way you would treat your kid. You want to be a critic but also be kind to yourself.
2. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, learn from them.
3. Spend more time doing what you love, find those moments that make you happy and cherish them. Do it more often.
Reflect and Challenge yourself
Self-reflection helps you understand your emotions, thoughts, reactions, and thereby helps you understand your strengths, weaknesses, and probable areas of improvement. It is all you need to reach where you want to be. This in return gives you a goal, a sense of yearning to improve. You can set small challenges for yourself and be a better version of yourself every day.
1. Keep a journal, this can even be noted on your phone. Write down what you are grateful for, what you learned about yourself, what did you do differently today? You can also use the ‘journal’ or ‘journey’ feature on Wysa to keep track of your mental health or thoughts.
2. Compete with yourself. Do one thing better than yesterday. Wake up 5 mins earlier, sleep 5 mins early. Eat one fruit. Small steps make a huge difference.
Stop thinking about other people
“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”
Just the way you are the best person to know you, other people will also have their own struggles. Honestly, everyone’s on their own journey and if you are a part of their journey be a good one. It’s very common that you compare, what you need to be aware of is how is it affecting you, are you performing better or spiraling down in a comparison battle.
1. Better late than never, if you realize your surroundings is not helping you to be a better version of yourself, it’s time to maybe change a few things around.
Boost your self-esteem and confidence
There are times when someone says something negative or you get a negative comment on your post or get rejected in an interview. These are the times your self-esteem and confidence dwindles. Taking steps to remember why you came this far and looking at the big picture helps. If someone says something negative to you, it shows a lot about them than you. Keep yourself above this person, forgive them and move on. This doesn’t mean you are weak, this only means you like to put your energy into more important things.
1. Imagine yourself to be the person you want to be.
2. Ask your inner-critic more questions. “Why?” is a good question to ask.
3. Get up, it doesn’t matter how many times you fail, what matters is how many times you get up from the failure.
4. Give yourself pep talks in front of a mirror.
Two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, have done much of the research on gratitude. In one study, they asked all participants to write a few sentences each week, focusing on particular topics. One group wrote about things they were grateful for that had occurred during the week. A second group wrote about daily irritations or things that had displeased them, and the third wrote about events that had affected them (with no emphasis on them being positive or negative). After 10 weeks, those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on sources of aggravation.
1. Keep a gratitude journal
2. Appreciate people who are in your gratitude circle
3. Be a part of someone else’s gratitude journal
The right amount of self-love, confidence, and belief in yourself can help you achieve anything you want. If everything that we said in this article is not helping, please try out the self-help tools and techniques like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), gratitude journal, and confidence submodality – these all are available on the Wysa app for free. They can help you chart out a plan according to your needs and objectives. Also reminder-
Choose yourself first, grow at your own pace